Couples meeting in later life are often ready for another relationship, but even they might find it difficult to give up their current goals or lifestyles. Not all people willing to date know they are not ready for a relationship, so it can be a nightmare for those who fall in love with them. When the timing is off to create a long term relationship, one or both people might be devastated. It can happen in many different ways.

Younger couples often find they are not ready to make a commitment when it is time for them to leave for college or university, and their partner is unable to follow them due to their own commitments. For those who are more mature, a career move might catch them unawares that either they or their partner has learned that settling down is not for them. Breaking up might be difficult, but those who are willing to hold on might find it is even worse.